Showing posts with label Q and A. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Q and A. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 17, 2010

This is Going to Cost You! The Budget

Over the last several years, "big" weddings have become hugely popular for brides and big business for wedding vendors. During this time, a slew of "urban legends for wedding planning" have sprung up. Many brides get caught up in these myths as they seem simple enough and, on the surface, sometimes even logical. Don't be fooled. Dispelling the unfortunately too common fallacies of wedding planning will help you avoid disappointment and disaster. No one ever said planning a wedding was easy.
 MYTH: I know exactly what it takes to pull off a wedding, and I will not go over budget.

TRUTH: There is a good chance you probably will. Many brides "forget" to include some necessary expenses and/or incur additional costs at the last minute. Some brides also "fall in love" with certain items and must have them whether or not they were originally budgeted for. Work with a trusted professional wedding planner to detail out a budget for you based on your needs. Professional planners deal with budgets all of the time and know what costs are involved in a wedding.

As a final precaution, take 5-10% off of your budget total and hold it back for those unexpected expenses - if you need it, it will not push you over the edge, and if you don't you will have some extra cash for the honeymoon (or bank account!).
Happy Planning!

Tuesday, December 8, 2009

This One's On Me!

What's Your Question Wednesday
Got a wedding question? Need some expert advice? Drop me a line!

We do not drink, nor do our families.
Just about every wedding I have been to has served alcohol.
I would prefer not to serve alcohol,
but am thinkng we have to. Do we?

If you ask most people, a glass of wine or a signature cocktail
goes hand in hand with a wedding reception...and a jovial good time.
Of course, many venues also "encourage" a bar option,
as it adds to their bottom line. That said, no where is it written
that alcohol must be served at a wedding. It is merely your job
to provide the guests with food and beverage.

Whether that beverage is alcoholic is entirely up to you.
Of course, realize if you do not serve alcohol,
you may "hear about it" from some guests
-yes, it would be tacky for them to say anything,
but people never surprise me! -
and, let's be honest, the alcohol (usually) plays a part
in getting the dancing and party started. So as long as you realize
the minor implications of not serving alcohol,
and you are comfortable with your decision, go for it!

You may want to choose a sparkling wine,
or "memorable" beverage for the toast.
(a sparkling soda that matches the wedding colors, perhaps!)
The toast should always be special!

As a side note, if you choose to not serve alcohol,
keep it at that. I have been asked by brides if it is
OK to not offer hosted alcoholic beverages, but to offer
the guests a no-host (cash) bar if they want alcohol.
Don't do it. Respect and adhere to your decision.

Oh...before I go...if there is no alcohol,
offer the guests something special, such as a gourmet coffee bar,
a smoothie bar, signature lemonades (rosemary, strawberry, etc.),
specialty fruit juices, or sparkling Italian sodas...
there is no reason you cannot make it fun and interesting!

Happy Planning!

Keep an eye out...and tell your engaged friends -
I will be giving away one of my books very soon!

Wednesday, December 2, 2009

To Cake or Not To Cake?

What's Your Question Wednesday...

Got a question...drop me a line!

I know a wedding cake is a tradition,
but I really do not want or see the need for one.
Am I breaking some serious law of etiquette
or stepping all over tradition if I skip the wedding cake?

There is no law in wedding world that says
you must have a wedding cake.
Yes, wedding cakes are a tradition
(and when the associated tradition of smashing it
in one's face disappears, it will be none too soon...
yes, couples still do this!).
However....this is your wedding and you should do
what suits your style and the style of your wedding.

I have had a few couples skip the wedding cake...
and trust me...grandma did not understand...
in fact mom and dad had a hard time understanding.
It is simply a tradition that people have come to expect,
but that does not mean you cannot find your own just dessert!

A few alternatives to a wedding cake include...cupcakes
(which arrived on the scene at least 10 years ago are still rocking it),
mini Bundt cakes, ice cream cake, cheesecake,
donuts, or a signature dessert...
pretty much if you can dream it up (and afford it) can be at your wedding.

Think about blending tradition with your savvy style...
One couple, who chose to marry at a favorite local restaurant,
decided to serve the restaurant's famous chocolate souffle
in lieu of wedding cake. Now at this wedding, many of the guests
were of a different generation, so we were a little unsure
of what they were going to think.Guess what...they loved it! 
However, the bride had visions that in 10 or 20 years
she was going to regret her "no cake" decision.
 So, to honor tradition, we ordered a small cake.
They sliced it and fed each other a piece,
just prior to dessert service.

For the record...I just love a FABULOUS wedding cake!
And by FABULOUS, I mean...
one that looks divine and tastes just as decadent. 

Happy Planning!

Thursday, November 26, 2009

What to Wear!?

What's Your Question?

Have a question...a dilemma...just plain confused
about a wedding related matter?
Look no further...this is the Q and A place.

My hubby and I are going to an indoor, evening wedding with a cocktail party reception. I was thinking of wearing my version of the "little black dress" with a lavender wrap and some sort of metallic-colored heel/sandal. Is this acceptable? You must always get the "is-black-okay-at-weddings" question...

For modern weddings, at a soiree such as you describe, black is totally acceptable. Accenting it with fabulous accessories, especially with a colored wrap and cute shoes is stylish and sophisticated and totally appropriate.

Drop me a line via email or leave your question in the comment box (be sure there is an email hooked up to your blogger account...I cannot help you out asap if you are a no-reply at blogger person)

Happy Planning!

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

What's Your Question Wednesday?

I just love answering questions about weddings.
So, to honor this little hobby of mine
and in anticipation of my book,
releasing very soon, I am making Wednesday's
"What's Your Question Wednesday?"

The Question

My daughter and all of her bridesmaids live in Seattle. I'm in Denver, as are most of her childhood friends and all our extended family. I know that traditionally family members should not throw a shower for the couple. In this situation, would it be terrible to break that rule or should I have a couple of my friends put their names on the invite? The shower will have to be held at my house because of the size of the shower? Advice???

The Answer
When I give advice, I always like to reference the traditional etiquette for each case just so we all know where we I am coming from. That said, times have changed, people have changed, and every circumstance is totally unique, so, in my opinion, there is no one right or wrong answer for most questions (I say most, because, I do have a few points I am a stickler with).

Traditional etiquette dictates that the bride's (or groom's) mother or grandmother should not host a shower; that responsibility should be left to more distant relatives, like a cousin or aunt, or to the maid of honor, bridesmaids, and other friends. The logic behind this rule is that the bride and groom’s families shouldn’t appear to be asking for gifts. 

Now for the reality of the situation...
  1. You have to do what is right for you and your family. I seriously doubt anyone (unless you are inviting some super-strict etiquette experts) is going to give a second thought to a family member hosting the shower. Especially in your case, it is simply a logistical necessity. 
  2. It is perfectly fine to hold the shower at your home regardless of who is hosting (i.e., if some others step in to assist).
  3. Are the bridesmaids hosting a shower as well? Or is this the only shower? If this is the only shower, consider including the Maid of Honor's name on the invitation.
  4. If it makes you feel more comfortable and a few of the childhood friends or extended family members wouldn't mind, include their names on the invitation along with yours. 
So, what does this mean?...The etiquette police will not come knocking on your door. This should not be something you worry about. Etiquette rules should be taken into account, but only to the point where as they are feasible. Guests know what to expect at a bridal shower - they know it is about showering the bride with gifts, and no one should hold it against a mother for having her daughters shower at her home or for hosting it.

Happy Planning!

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